Take a moment to think about how you priorities the following 10 values and rank them in order from 1 to 10 based on how you would like your life to reflect.
____wealth (the amount of money you have)
____material possessions (how much stuff you have aquired)
____family (however you define it)
____social status (job titles, awards, trophies, certifications, degrees)
____health (physical, mental, and emotional)
____ethical character (your expression toward others of love, kindness, honesty, generosity, gratitude, etc.)
____fame (how many people know you)
____attractiveness (the importance of looking good, beautuy, etc.)
____performance at work (your competence and mastery)
Now take a moment to rank these priorities from 1 to 10 based on the amount of time, energy, and resources you have spent on each of these values. Be honest with yourself as you answer.
____performance at work
As you look at your lists, do you find that your time and energy is invested in the values that are most important to you? Are there areas that you spend a lot of time that rank low on your value priortity list?
This exercise is taken from Jim Loehr's book, The Only Way to Win, and I found it very powerful. It really shines a light on areas you are spending too much time on that are not important to you as well as those areas that need more time and effort because they matter more to you. Loehr asks his reader, "If you died tomorrow, would you be okay with how you made out these lists, the extent to which they alighned, and what they say about how you lived your life?"
Look back over your priority list of your values. You can choose to make sure you are spending the most time and energy to the things that are most important to you. Take charge of your life and move the important things to the top of your to-do lists. Choose not to let distractions or other peoples' priorities dictate how your time is spent. It feels good to be doing what you hold to be most valuable. You choose those and you are on your way to your happy.
Reference- Value list and description pages 14-15. "If you died tomorrow, . . .lived your life?" J. Loehr, The Only Way to Win (London*Boston Nicholas Brealey Publishing, 2012), 14-15. Here is a link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Only-Way-Win-Achievement-Fulfillment/dp/1401324673